walk a mile in his hooves

so there is an old saying that to understand any situation or relationship from the viewpoint of the other party
i.e. what is it like for them? how do they feel about this? etc

you should first walk a mile in their shoes

so forget your own views, knowledge, preconceptions etc for a moment and think

if I were my horse:

• how would I be feeling about this
• would I understand what is being asked of me
• would I feel confident that I could do what is being asked of me
• would I feel that I should do what is being asked of me
• would I trust my owner's judgement
• etc...